Interaction in an intimate parent-child relationship will acquiesce your child experience your holistic personality which can comprise of the present and the past, the conscious and the unconscious. Different aspects of your personality can interweave to affect the dynamics and quality of the relationship. In developing the parental efficacy, knowing your personal characteristics such as relational pattern and developmental history can provide powerful insights into your parenting style and how it may affect the relationship with your child.
The birth of a child also embarks a major transition in your life which may cause overlapping of your child’s needs onto your own needs. Only through understanding and satisfying your own needs as a person will help you see the importance of your child’s needs as a distinctive human being.
In my practice, bringing these insights to the parents is the major task leading to empowerment and enhancement of their parental competency.